Real Resolutions Aren’t Made Today, So I Only Resolve To Stop Getting Parking Tickets And Losing Umbrellas

This year, I only have two New Year’s resolutions: avoid getting parking tickets and stop losing so many umbrellas.  That’s it.  They’re simple because my true goals are not made on the first day of every year.  It’s going to be the busiest time of the year for all fitness gyms as they sign on new members looking to get in shape, yet most gym employees will readily admit that 95% of new members will not show up after the first month.

Let’s stop the vicious cycle of making a sudden drastic change that goes nowhere and get something really accomplished.

Real goals are concrete, written down, and reviewed constantly.  I’m constantly on top of my goals, on track, and revising them as I meet them.  If you haven’t tried writing down your goals yet, it’s pretty simple.   Write them in every major category: health, wealth, career, family, relationships, spirituality, adventure, mental (new skills).  Write them for what you would like to reasonably achieve a year from now.  Then, write your 3 year, 5 year, and 10 year goals.

Next, comes the most important part: reviewing your goals constantly. I recommend journaling, either paper or digital.  Some people swear that pen and paper does wonders as the handwritten process makes them more connected with their written goals. I review them via a digital journal, and I often have so much to write.  At first, review them at least 2 or 3 times a week and write about how you’re on track with your goals or what plans you have to achieve them.  After half a year, you may tone it down to a weekly activity, but at least make sure you’re reading them.

Regardless, there’s magic in writing your goals.  I can attest to that.  Somehow, it activates your subconscious, and before you know it, you’re slowly moving towards many of them in some shape or form.  You’ll start taking action and procrastinate less.

In the book What They Don’t Teach You At Harvard Business School by Mark McCormack, a well-known study of Harvard grads and goals was conducted.  Ten years after graduation, 13 percent of the class who were aware of their goals, were earning, on average, twice as much as the 84 percent who had no goals at all.  More interestingly, three percent of the class who had clear, written goals were earning, on average, ten times as much as the other 97 percent put together.

A year from now, when you’re reviewing them for at least the 100th time and scoffing at New Year’s Resolutions, you’ll realize you might have to revise many of your goals because you’ve met them sooner than you’ve thought.  Or, you might have gained some new insight and have moved into a completely positive new direction altogether.  This happens when you make a drastic change in your life, such as a career change, ending of a bad relationship, move, etc.  For example, in my case, as I developed new levels of thinking, I found I wanted to develop my spiritual goals, and  my material goals (wealth) became less important.  Many of the things I used to want I no longer desired.

Just don’t be afraid of change.  You need it to strengthen you.  The core of a person’s spirit is new experiences.

Seriously though, no matter how hard I try, I keep getting parking tickets no matter how hard I try to avoid them, especially in Toronto.  And those umbrellas.  I think I need an alarm that activates when I walk more than 50 meters away from mine.

The 13 percent of the class who had goals were earning, on average, twice as much as the 84 percent who had no goals at all. And what about the three percent who had clear, written goals? They were earning, on average, ten times as much as the other 97 percent put together

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19 responses to “Real Resolutions Aren’t Made Today, So I Only Resolve To Stop Getting Parking Tickets And Losing Umbrellas”

  1. Hey,

    Great blog entry, I like the simplicity of the ideas, as well as the notion that goals should not be created on one day and then forgotten about/broken soon after, immediately has negative connotations and therefore cannot be healthy!

    One thing I’d like to know is how do you set your goals? I often set goals (although don’t review them, which is something I am definitely going to try), but I am always worried that they are unrealistic, or unachievable. Also, my fear of failure is often that great that it prevents me reaching for what I feel should be my full potential (whether it be professionally, in my personal life etc). Also, I don’t know how to action plan in order to achieve what I want, i.e. I’ll set a goal, but not know how to go about achieving it.

    Thought I’d just jot down my thoughts and concerns to see if there was anyone out there who felt the same/had overcome the same, and if there was any advice out there!!

    All the best for 2010, and the umbrella resolution!!(how do you lose them so often?!)

    1. Hey Chris,

      On goals being unrealistic, that’s what I meant by ‘magic’. I wrote some goals, like having my own business with no idea what to do, and it somehow came together. Don’t worry about action planning and heavily dissecting your goals – just write about them casually to yourself! I didn’t break down the tasks until the ball magically started rolling on some things. I plan on writing a whole article on this, with specific examples, so stay tuned!

      Ki’une

    2. Chris,

      On unrealistic goals, that’s what I meant by ‘magic’. I wrote goals which I had no idea of how to achieve, such as having my own business, but it somehow came together once I wrote it down and reviewed them. I have many specific examples, and I plan on writing an article on this, so stay tuned! On action planning, don’t worry about calendar breakdowns yet – just start writing and reviewing in a journal casually. You want to activate your subconscious. Once things start materializing and the ball starts rolling, then plan out your tasks short term and long term.

      Ki’une

  2. I like “The core of a person’s spirit is new experiences” – good point. How many of us have been sitting around, moaning about life never changing, but we’ve been too afraid to change it!

    2009 for me, became a year of new experiences and I plan to continue the trend in 2010!

    Looking forward to reading more about you and getting more inspiration from people like you!

    Thanks!

    1. Thanks, Shawna. I’ve got lots of material coming your way, plus more inspirational videos 😉 It’s something I really love to do.

  3. Michael Winser Avatar
    Michael Winser

    Love your site and your outlook on life. I found you through Tim Ferriss’ success stories videos.

    Your resolutions are exactly the kind of thing I tell people when they ask about resolutions. And indeed, I shed umbrellas (and rain jackets!) like it’s my job.

    “Just don’t be afraid of change. You need it to strengthen you. The core of a person’s spirit is new experiences.” – couldn’t have said it better.

    Keep on rockin’!

  4. I saw your recent post, possibly climbing in the olympics…in the spring?

    if so, you need a place to stay in seattle, you are welcome in the north end at our house as we have plenty of room.

    I am in Colombia SA for another 2 months but will return in late march. I sent the link for “sunscreen/everybody’s free” to my kids and I know they’ll love it. Excellent!

    muchas gracias, gregory

    1. ki'une Avatar
      ki’une

      @Greg Hey Gregory. I’ll actually be nearby in Vancouver, but I’m always looking for climbing partners and a couch to surf! Many thanks!

  5. The couch is always available but better yet, there’s a great spare bedroom, homemade fare and great music throughout the house and garden; and you can’t beat talking with my son Zach and his friends.

    I just returned to Medellin after spending the weekend in Santa Fe de Antioquia and sopetran, Colombia.

    Here’s hoping your climb in the Olympics is in the spring or summer (best is always summer) as I will be back in late March 2010.

    and don’t forget, Mount Rainier is no slouch either!

    cheers!/gregory

    1. Thanks for the invite. I’ll add you on Facebook if the email you left here finds you!

  6. gracias! I am in facebook because of my kids!

    One is currently living in Barcelona so we can see each others fotos every day.

    invitame por favor!

  7. Hi Ki’une,

    great blog, inspiring stuff, I especially loved your video.
    About parking tickets and umbrellas, ditch your car and don’t wear an umbrella. Problem solved 🙂

    I wish you all the best for the future!

  8. Spencer Ingram Avatar
    Spencer Ingram

    In response to the questions on how to set resolutions/goals, I use the acronym SMART. This means that goals are specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and timely. SMART Goals. This helps communicate what exactly we are working towards and provides a strong path for sticking to the goal.

    Cheers!

    1. Thanks! I especially like ‘timely’!

  9. Dorojan Cristian Avatar
    Dorojan Cristian

    I like the idea of writing down my goals, i will try this, maybe this is the cure for my fear of new experiences, thanks alot 🙂

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  12. Dimitris Avatar
    Dimitris

    Hey Ki, where is your life checklist, I can’t find it. Can you please post a link to it.

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