This is the text of my speech I delivered a few weeks ago as the meeting’s Toastmaster.

Last week during table topics, I recanted a story about rock climbing at night in Mexico that led to my choice of today’s theme: Adventure.

Although the climb I described sounded incredibly dangerous and high – if this podium was the cliff, we were like ants – it wasn’t as scary as one might think.   My partner and I had years of experience climbing outdoors and had trained gradually to overcome our fear of heights and falling.  Nothing on the cliff itself surprised us other than the height, but at that height, our minds couldn’t really grasp the magnitude as everything below just looked like miniatures.  When we ran into a little trouble that night and our rope got caught while pulling it down, we didn’t panic.

We simply readjusted the remaining length of rope, used it safely to climb up and free the rope.  For me, climbing in the dark was new which did make me a bit nervous, but deep inside, I knew there was nothing to worry about.

Now, you don’t have to rock climb, jump out of an airplane, or backpack through Iraq to have an adventure.  On the contrary, the adventurous living I advocate involves breaking free of certain social conditioning and challenging yourself to improve your life circumstances, open up your mind, or just make every day more interesting.

I was at a friend’s house a few weeks ago when a quotation on her reusable Lululemon shopping bag caught my eye:

Do one thing a day that scares you.

In preparation for this week’s role as Toastmaster and the theme I chose, I decided to put it to the test.  Here we go.

Monday

Talk to an attractive girl on the subway under the glaring eyes and listening ears of strangers.  Get her phone number.

Tuesday

Take a big step into the world of entrepreneurship by linking my personal bank account to an online shopping cart I’ve been working on.

Wednesday

Rock climbing night.  Tackle that thin 5.12 climb – thin meaning it feels like climbing on tic tacs.  Take the big falls and keep trying.

Thursday

3 days are up!  Call the girl I met on the subway earlier on Monday.  I actually found this more nerve wracking than the approach.

Friday

Halloween night – enter a dance competition in front  of a crowd of people.  Still, it’s rather hard to do something adventurous on a day .  Promise to wear the afro on a day that’s not Halloween.

Saturday

Take a jazz funk dance class designed mostly for women.  Show up as the only guy.  Learn to dance sexy. (demonstrate move)

Sunday

Toughest day of them all.  After a lengthy hiatus in taking a major role at my Toastmasters club, take on the Toastmaster role and lead the meeting.

Hellen Keller once said:

Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable.

The most important actions are never comfortable.  Fortunately, it is possible to condition yourself to discomfort and overcome it. (Timothy Ferris)

With that said, I would like to start our meeting with a session I feel is for the truly adventurous – Table Topics.


Comments

14 responses to “A Week Of Adventurous Living”

  1. John Lunt Avatar
    John Lunt

    Dude, the other stuff is a lot more scary to me than being Toastmaster. Actually, I’ve got to get back into a club. I’ve been out too long. Now the other stuff you mentioned – that’s scary. By the way, I’ll bet it was a great meeting.

    1. Haha. Yeah, once the public speaking thing is dialed, it gets easier – no more notes! With approaching women, I always feel the fear will always be there – it just needs to be managed.

  2. Nice man. I really dig it.

    Great blog.

    John

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  4. I’ve been enjoying reading your blog. Lots of good inspirations in here 🙂 One in particular – going to Toastmaster – an idea that I’ve been toying with for awhile…how was your experience? Public speaking is one of my most dreadful fears, but something I am looking forward to overcoming…

    1. ki'une Avatar
      ki’une

      Akiko,

      Public speaking is one of those activities that has paid me back several times over! From confidently meeting women to speaking clearly on my DVD, it’s something I’m definitely getting back into soon. If you’re new and afraid, they have really, really small roles you can participate in before you, such as timing the speeches and delivering a short summary. There’s also mentoring if you join a really good club.

      On the other side of fear lies freedom!

      Ki’une

  5. Bendik L. Avatar
    Bendik L.

    Nice article! Hit me hard on that ecommerce thing…time to put that on my list also, believe it or not, it has been a huge internal fear…I suspect it is the fear of failure or even worse…success?!

    Did you put this \getting the chicks number\ thing on your list before you did it? Did you take the subway back and forth 5-6 times until a hot chick showed up?

    I think that the exact objective of doing the \getting a chicks number in the public\ thing, must be one of the most barrier breaking things when it comes to public speaking and talking to strangers.

    What about writing an article about comfort challenges, and maybe getting your readers to contribute listing up different stuff and pushing eachother, reporting in when they did something, what made them follow through or what fear made them procrastinate…. You might start a valuable dialogue with your readers, challenging eachother to do the comfort challenges. Would be cool to see something like that, and I would certainly join.

    Best regards.
    Bendik L.

    1. Hi Bendik,

      Fear of failure comes first, but fear of success, although previously unimaginable, is something I can understand a little better now. On approaching women on the subway, I didn’t think too much about it. Once I saw the opportunity, I just knew I had to say something, anything – it didn’t matter if it went good or bad. Surprisingly, it went well. I guess that ‘s where public speaking comes in – just impromptu speaking. I totally would like to write more about comfort challenges. I’m open to all discussions, though right now it’s limited in the comments section. Thanks for the article idea!!

      All the best,

      Ki’une

  6. Bendik L. Avatar
    Bendik L.

    by the way! Here is my last “real” adventure that i still can feel in my body!

    First time SkyDiving! RECOMMENDED comfort challenge!
    To make the story short, I didn`t speak the language so pre-jump training was limited, no sleep from the day before, met up with a guy from 6 hours earlier which i convinced to come rent a car and drive to a place whom we only got the name for, no specific driving instructions…Amazingly after hours of driving we made it there as the needle in the heystack and we jumped into the sunset, most beautiful experience ever!

    For those of you who would like to see it here is the link:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MuNU72km-Ns

    -Bendik

    1. Great video! I haven’t skydived yet, though I’ve paraglided (one of the main rotating images), bungee jumped, and free jumped off a bridge!

  7. Great website Ki’une! I’m a huge fan of your video version of the Sunscreen Song. I post it to my Facebook page every few weeks as inspiration to my friends! I’m with you on doing something that scares you frequently but I think I’m going to follow your model and pick several “scary” things for the week. Should be interesting!
    Btw, as a woman I never knew how scary it can be for men to approach us! I will say this – most very attractive woman LOVE men who make them laugh and aren’t overly aggressive. Most of the time you get three types approaching you: 1) You can tell they are scared of you. 2) Total douchebag 3) The cute guy that’s scared to talk to you.
    This is why hot girls usually end up with #2. Have no fear!!!

    1. ki'une Avatar
      ki’une

      Tamara! Thanks for sharing – I’m still filming more videos that I hope will make people smile. Following the advice of some readers, I do intend on putting up some challenges for people to do. As for approaching women, it’s always scary, but the results are worth it. Funny enough, my initial approach feels overly confident (but not douchebag-like). I liken it to get my foot in the door so that I can communicate my genuine self in the ensuing conversations. It’s not my ideal method, but it’s just how “the game” seems to work.

  8. Ken Chase Avatar
    Ken Chase

    Not sure why I didnt read this yet, Jesse – where was the climb you got stuck on in MX? Timewave Zero in portrero? Who did you climb it with? We also lost the rope end for a few minutes at the bottom of a rap – the wind blew it back to us a couple minutes later – we were thinking so hard about what we might do to fix the situation we didnt panic… but phew. It was crazy for a second in retrospect! 🙂

    hope to run into you again sometime.

    /kc

    1. ki'une Avatar
      ki’une

      It was Yankee Clipper – forgot to undo the figure eight at the end of the rope while rappelling and had to climb up in the dark to free it!

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