Facing fears isn’t a simple task at all. Why is that? Often times, we think that facing fears means doing something big and daunting, like changing careers, confronting a bad relationship, or moving to another country. In my slice of reality, I find that tackling small fears on a daily basis is the better way to go.
You build gumption slowly. You increase courage gradually. You develop determination piece by piece. In the end, the sum of all your little courageous steps add up, you’ve gone further than you’ve imagined, and now you’ve got the skills to tackle the bigger challenges. And guess what? Your old problems might not look so big by then.
Without that building-up process, the wall is just too high, and you’ll just dreadfully stare at that imposing fortress. And stare. And stare. Frozen in place by fear.
So, to start the year, let’s just focus of facing five fears, but only small versions of them.
1. The Fear Of Failure (small version). You’re going to start something small and put yourself out there, such as a side business, showing your art in a cafe, or writing a blog. Make sure it’s exciting and fun, because that will give whatever you do traction.
Don’t worry about pros and cons. It might turn out great. It might not work out. It doesn’t matter. Just have fun. And by putting yourself out there, you’ve faced the fear of failure head on, you’ve gained a valuable lesson, and you’ve become stronger for it.
In taking baby steps, you reduce your risk while building what I call “courage stamina”. And later, when