I was talking to an acquaintance recently, and she recanted a story to me. Her father had died in a retirement home a while back, and she felt very strongly that the caretakers were to blame. As I heard the story, I understood that yes, there was the possibility the caretakers held some responsibility, though I had some reservations about a truth hidden somewhere between the cracks.
I listened, and when she finished her story, I thought for a moment and asked, “Can you forgive them?”
She gave me a frigid, stern look and emphatically replied, “I will never forgive them for what they’ve done.”
I was saddened to hear her reply. Unbeknowst to her, she had actually told me this story before. And her father had passed away over 10 years ago.
Non-forgiveness is your choice to remain in pain. As Marianne Williamson wrote, when you don’t forgive someone, you’re hanging a knife over someone else’s head, yet the knife falls on you.
So why are we